Going Snape

I believe I have crossed an invisible threshold and have become an old mom. Not old in terms of my actual chronological age, but crone-ish in my attitude and perspective.

Old mom doesn’t care what people think about her parenting. She doesn’t give a rodent’s patootie about people-pleasing. Old mom dares you to cast judgment.

This became abundantly clear during a recent IEP meeting for one of the boys. It was all going swimmingly, with a beautiful sense of cohesion among all members of my kid’s team. The adaptive PE teacher and the speech/language pathologist actually combed the school for a basketball and little hoop, and carried them to the conference room to entertain my hoops-obsessed toddler. Seriously, rainbows and butterflies, all the way around.

Until….the team denied something that my son has always had access to, and which he absolutely needs. And I became a hybrid of Severus Snape and a brown bear.

I’ll spare you a reenactment, which still sends angry-hot pulses of fury coursing through my veins. The upshot is that the boy still has access to the service he requires. At least for one more year.

And I realized that the previous me, with the penchant for avoiding confrontation blew away like a dead leaf in a wind gust a long time ago. Current me, old me—the crone if you will—is instinctively a survivalist. She’s also the resident authority on the children who live here, and their esoteric needs.

And Old Crone Mom is perfectly happy to engage in a battle of wills.

  4 comments for “Going Snape

  1. February 1, 2014 at 10:16 pm

    I love you Warrior Moms! My daughter Emily is one of those too! That’s why to Lord sent these children to you. He knew you would fight for them, and LOVE them!

  2. February 2, 2014 at 7:30 am

    Good for you! If you’re a crone, can I be one of your cronies? 🙂

  3. February 2, 2014 at 8:10 pm

    You GO girl! I’ve been there–and I’ve come to really understand that NO ONE will advocate for or understand your child like you will. Go! Fight! Win! We should form our own cheer squad!

  4. LC
    February 2, 2014 at 11:14 pm

    This is so great. My school board has seen the “monster unleashed” in me too. You give me courage.

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