Things That Change

I used to have an ongoing mental list that looked like this:

Things We Can’t Do Because of Disabilities

1. Eat normal food all together at the table as a family.
2. Expect that people will keep their clothes on.
3. Ride in the car without people shrieking, throwing things, or removing their pants while crawling around on the seats and mooning people in the other cars on the freeway.
4. Go out to dinner.
5. Travel.
6. Have Family Home Evenings that last longer than 3 minutes; attend church without drama.
7. Potty train our children.

Sometimes I still construct pointless mental lists like this:

Dumb Things I Ask Myself From the Bottom of the Pit

1. Do people with typical children realize what they have?
2. Will random people ever see the precariousness of my family’s daily life and stop pestering us to do all the things that normal families do?
3. Does God really think all this is necessary?

Other times, I breathe deeply enough to still the turmoil and find fragments of clarity. I think to turn the spyglass around and look through it properly from the correct end, so I can see things magnified clearly.

When that happens, the list is more like this:

Things Disabilities Have Given Us That We Wouldn’t Otherwise Have

1. An understanding of suffering.
2. A measure of patience.
3. An actual relationship with God.
4. Compassion for people who are different.
5. A disinclination to care about things.
6. An appreciation for life as a temporary state, framed between a whole history which happened before, and something glorious to come after.

Like my lists, things can change for something better.


  8 comments for “Things That Change

  1. Jennifer H.
    October 24, 2014 at 1:32 pm

    Love This…Love YOU!

  2. Jayanne wight
    October 24, 2014 at 2:15 pm

    What a beautiful woman your are Megan. Thank you for sharing your challenges and triumphs. Your post give me clarity and inspiration.

  3. Kerri
    October 24, 2014 at 4:01 pm

    I needed this today, my lovely friend.

  4. Sarah
    October 24, 2014 at 10:50 pm

    Wisdom. You are a dear. And I love that picture.

  5. Melody
    October 25, 2014 at 7:19 am

    Beautiful and true. As always. Thanks, Megan. I needed this today.

  6. Heather Porter
    October 25, 2014 at 10:04 am

    I LOVE this! Totally made me cry! Thanks for sharing.

  7. allison
    October 25, 2014 at 12:52 pm

    I am beginning to really see the blessings of challenges, and I live in gratitude daily for the perspective that they bring. Most recently, I’m really understanding that things are not what make up life, that make us special. It’s who we are and how we live that matters most! Thanks for this post!

  8. Jen
    October 26, 2014 at 4:36 pm

    Thank you for your perspective. It’s hard to step back and see what we have through a lens of gratitude when the hard stuff is (sometimes literally) hitting us in the face. Keep writing!

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