Month: October 2015

Halloween Overload

When my friend Sarah Evans (the wizard behind the podcast Bringing Up Betty) asked if I had any funny, weird, wild, sad, or true stories about Halloween with the special needs family, I was like, “Duh. Yes.” So she interviewed me and the story can be found here. It’s a worthwhile topic—how holidays differ for families with special needs. I tend…

Saturday is a special day

Weekends are a menacing black storm cloud on my weekly horizon. All the reasons most people love weekends are all the reasons Jack (and sometimes Charlie) can’t handle them. They need structure, not free-form days. And so, you guys, a Saturday at my house might look like this: 1. Jack sprinkles plastic Halloween confetti throughout my unmade bed. 2. Charlie…

Clearing out dead things

There is something intensely satisfying to me in cutting back dying plants in autumn. I am not gifted with flora. I do not find solace in tending to shrubs and trees and flowers. It is purely a chore for me. And so when I lopped off the top of the dead lavender plants this evening, revealing a tidy, controlled space…

Behold, thy Mother

  Tuesday of this week was the kind of day where bad things happened. Three people associated with the school all lost their cool at separate times and said hurtful remarks to me about things that Jack hadn’t actually done but which they were afraid he might do. When someone vehemently spouts their displeasure at a special needs mom about…

Millions of Peaches

Sometimes I write down the true stories of my life that are wild and unexpected, and to which other special-needs parents are like, “Dude. We get it.” Kera Washburn of The Special Reds is hosting an autism education series on her blog this month. She features this crazypants tale of peaches and behavior modification which really happened betwixt me and Charlie. It…

Not enough is good enough

This morning as I mopped the urine from Jack’s bedroom floor, I realized that one of the best things I’ve learned from my children is that I’m not in control of much.  Not that this was always a good thing. I hated it.  I hated the meltdowns and the lakes of urine, the poop and the rigid routines. Sometimes I…

Learning Curve

My life has undergone a change in the last two months as I have gone back to work part time. Two mornings a week, I teach college writing. Here are a few things I’ve discovered: 1. I’m busier now, but happier. The same problems still exist at home and likely always will, but now I sometimes get to close the…